Learning from my sartorial mishaps
The older I get, the less I want to think about clothes. I don’t mean I no longer enjoy fashion, and using it as a means to express myself. Rather I mean I want to fill my wardrobe with clothes that are easy to wear, and which I don’t have to ‘try’ to get use out of. Standing in the way of this are some simple mistakes that are easy to fall into. As I move ahead on my wardrobe ‘journey’ I’m trying to fix and preempt these problems, and ultimately build a wardrobe that is a pleasure to wear. In this series, we’ll take a look at some of the top errors I’m trying to banish from my closet.
In this second edition, I’m going the opposite way to the first post, and thinking about clothes that are too small for me.
Thinking I’ll lose weight if something is too small for me
Like with the previous post, this ultimately comes from thinking that I’m the problem. I’m sure we all have a pile of clothes (usually jeans!) that we’re saving for ‘when’ we lose weight and miraculously shrink back down to the size we were in our late teens and early 20s. Every now and then we try them on and feel squashed and uncomfortable before breaking out of them at the end of the day with a gasp of relief (probably having found an excuse to change into PJs/workout wear earlier than normal).
But our bodies change as we progress through life, and that’s totally ok. The idea that we need to constantly be chasing younger versions of ourselves is of course a symptom of the patriarchy, and it’s sad to think how much we could achieve with the energy we put into worrying and acting on this toxic vision. Imagine if we collectively pursued happiness instead? This is not to blame anyone who does feel they act on this – we all do it subconsciously or otherwise all the time. But it is something I’m trying to work on. Not just by admitting when clothes are too small for me, but doing so with complete neutrality. It is not a judgement on me, my body, or my worth and value if what one company labels a certain size isn’t right for me. The sooner I embrace this, the happier I’ll feel about my clothes. It’s not always easy, but I think it’s a worthy cause.
I think these mistakes are so easy to make, but once you start thinking about why you’re making them, they’re also pretty easy to fix. I’d love to hear what mistakes and solutions you’ve made in the past – what are your tired and trusted wardrobe rules? Please do share them in a comment below!